My Wife's 40 Year Anniversary in the USA

By Chuck Marshall 

The Love of My Life 

  ** My wife has officially been in the United States for 40 years as of last month- so this blog is dedicated to her and her brother and her mother and her late father for all they endured to be legal immigrants to the United States from the tyrannical government of Fidel Castro's Cuba.  

   Much has been said about immigration this past few years- it has become the biggest political hotpoint of all here in 2025, In My Humble Opinion, and really decided the 2024 election to a large extent. This brings an interesting introspect from my personal life because I am married to an immigrant.  My wife came here "legally" in May of 1985, at the age of 12, not speaking a word of English and with parents who were in their 50's.  They had no money and no jobs with only family to help them get a start here. There was no government help at all except that you were allowed to come here and live legally to start a new life. The rest was up to you.  They arrived with nothing. The communist government of Cuba does not allow anyone who leaves the country to take anything with them because everything is regarded as the property of the state. No clothes. No personal effects. Not even personal pictures. (My wife's brother had to smuggle out pictures when he followed them a couple of years later) You are treated as a traitor and an enemy of the state. Most people leaving Cuba back in the 1980's were found out by the neighbors and had eggs thrown at their house or apartment. My wife remembers being terrified that would happen to her family, but thankfully it never happened to them.  

   So her journey began on a plane from Havana as a consequence of a Reagan - Castro agreement that was terminated by Fidel right after my wife's flight. She loves to tell the story of how the family was sick the day before their flight and her mother suggested they wait another few days, but her father protested and said he felt like they had to take that flight no matter what. His sense of urgency proved to be correct they would soon find out, hearing on arrival to Miami that theirs was the last flight out of Cuba.  I like to hear her stories of arriving in the United States. "What was the first thing you noticed ?" I ask. "The lights, she answers- so many lights" and "all the American flags" (because the USA was such an enemy of Cuba the American flag was rarely seen and certainly not respected). Their first stop was with her uncle who took them to K-mart to buy basic clothes since they had nothing but the clothes on their backs.  Then they went to Denny's where she said she had never seen so much food at once in her life. She could barely eat half her hamburger (after years of surviving on eggs, milk, mangos and a monthly ration of meat). Her only shoes in Cuba that last year were flip-flops. So many stories I've heard since I first dated her.  I remember our first date to go to the movies at the Galleria Mall in Ft. Lauderdale.  I was fascinated by her story of Cuba and had a great deal of admiration for her family and all they had overcome in just a few years through work, grit and determination. Her smile through it all grabbed my heart, and here we are together still after 30 years of marriage.  

   I guess you could say my wife's experience under Communism has formed my opinions to a great extent. I was already leaning to conservative opinion when we met, but her stories of struggle and the horrors of living under Communism cemented a deep distrust and disgust with Socialism and all the evil that comes with it. When you live with it, and when you see the pain in the eyes of the one you love, it's not possible to "see both sides" regarding Communism or anything that even resembles Communism. It has proven to be the worst form of government that has ever existed. Since its inception it has destroyed millions of lives and brought down once great nations along with their traditions and beliefs because the Communists ruled these traditions and beliefs to be "decadent" and an enemy of the people. Communism sucks the soul out of a country and out of a person. It turns women into prostitutes to survive. It forces men into theft to prevent starvation. It leaves nothing but takers and no givers. It is a Godless, demonic, satanic way of life that diminishes all people to being victims. What's worse is they cloak themselves as being "benevolent" and "altruistic" and that they are "equalizing the people".  It equalizes the people alright- it makes them all equally poor and equally parasites.  

  So, I offer up this congratulations to my beautiful wife, the love of my life at 40 years in the United States. (By the way, she has been an American citizen since 1996.)  Thank you Janet for being in my life and thank you for opening my mind to the evils that men are capable of- so much so that I recognize the barbarism behind the "good intentions" that the left claims they have.  As you have put it to me many times so eloquently-- with Communism you are the property of the state. You are not your own person. The socialists supposedly have good intentions to make us all equal, but their naive mindset and the power-hungry needs of their leaders are behind a barbaric path for countries that adopt such a path by which to govern. It erodes us all to being "non-people". Such a way of life must never be allowed to become established in the United States. Such a philosophy must never be allowed to flourish.  

Part of me wants to go back in time and remove the pain for my wife. Take away the constant hunger. To stop the fear and lighten the darkness. To smooth out the trouble of a monstrous government that diminished its people to the level of cattle. But after it all, really it brought her to me and it has added clarity to my worldview that is such an important part of who I am now. So we want to change the past but we cannot. Our lives are a book being written by God and so the inability to go back and “fix” things is probably a good thing. A very good thing.